Don’t do it for me

In one of the most affectionate displays of care, often these words come through: I am doing it for you.

What many miss
is the complicity in this statement.

The hostage situation it creates
for those cherished
in a display of compassion
ends up being exactly the opposite.

The dependency created makes this righteous intent malicious. It burdens the connection, which in turn makes it weaker, not stronger.

The ego will resist this notion because it can’t help but play on these insecurities to justify its purpose.

Yet true affection doesn’t burden.

Doesn’t hold hostage.

And doesn’t create an opportunity for regret or a transaction-based dependency that has the potential for abuse.

That’s unfortunately what we have reduced love and care to — illusions of care masked in behaviors of abuse.

Until the next ❤️ beat ~.~.~